Heath Lambert, A Boyce College instructor told women at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary that a bad marriage is "not an excuse for sin," and in a worst-case scenario a submissive wife might be forced to "suffer wrong."
If the husband persists in acting "like an unbeliever" after others have gotten involved, he said, "as long as you are safe, eventually you have to adopt what I'm calling the Sarah principle." It is taken from I Peter 3:6, where the Old Testament patriarch is mentioned as an example of husbands won over by good conduct of their wife.
He tells wives to look for the sin they did that influenced their husbands to sin against. "I can tell you this: I have never in my life -- whether as a pastor, as a counselor or just as a human being that knows people -- I have never met a victimized spouse who responded perfectly to their spouse's sin against them, who's always been righteous in their response, who's never sinned in their response to the sin of the spouse. I've never met that person."
So as he states no one is perfect, and so since that is the case you need to learn to endure the suffering of abuse.